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How to Be Handsome without Overdoing It

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Here’s how to be handsome without overdoing it.

Attractiveness is subjective. “Handsome” means different things to different women. It’s influenced by many factors, such as socio-cultural norms, upbringing, and the inexplicable mystery of chemistry.

But it’s natural for men to want to learn how to be handsome.

Despite different influences, there are common-sense guidelines every gentleman ought to follow.

This fresh entry will show you how to look good to a Thai woman.

What Is Handsome by Thai Standards?

Before we give out tips, let’s paint a little picture first. What does a handsome man look like to a Thai person’s eyes?

In the past, the ideal Thai man was a muscular, well-built guy. Their fit figures became the symbol of masculinity in local society.

But fast forward to today, and the script has flipped.

“Pretty boys” (luk kreung) have become the ideal gentlemen. This type is often seen in modern Thai dramas. Think tall, lean men with relatively delicate features that soften their appearances.

Some research suggests the gentler, almost feminine look of the “pretty boy”, from an evolutionary and biological standpoint, is perceived as more honest, nurturing, and emotionally available.

The rise of Japanese and Korean pop culture certainly contributed to their popularity.

These men usually aren’t afraid to express their feminine side, which can be unheard of for some. And since their looks are a huge selling point, they work hard to maintain their appearance.

How to Look Handsome without Doing Too Much

Being genetically blessed helps in looking good, but staying attractive means doing the work.

Realistically, women may find celebrities attractive, but they form connections with the men they encounter in everyday life.

So you need to focus on looking your best with what you naturally have. Everyone has something going for them.

Consistency is the key here, so make sure to incorporate all these into your routine.

#1: Get settled on a skincare routine.

Skincare routines aren’t just for women. They benefit men too.

Get started with washing your face. It’s the bedrock of your routine. Use a facial wash that suits your skin type for fewer skin problems. From there, clean your face with a toner and moisturizer for a complete routine.

Skin protects the rest of you. It’s the largest organ of the body. Taking care of it is your duty. Don’t let anyone tell you that skincare diminishes your manhood, because it truly doesn’t.

#2: Correct your posture.

People can form perceptions of others by observing their posture. According to Harvard research, how one carries oneself physically plays a huge role in people’s perception of their attractiveness.

We recommend standing straight with your shoulders back and your feet firmly on the ground. This will make you appear confident and self-assured.

Even better, it keeps you healthy. With good posture, you can breathe easier, decrease stress on your bones and joints, and even boost mood and energy.

A man shaving his facial hair
Learning how to look handsome means cleaning up the facial hair.

#3: Clean up the facial hair.

Facial hair isn’t always acceptable in some parts of Thailand. While cities like Bangkok don’t ban it, the women aren’t too keen on it. This may be due to cultural influence.

Thai men usually don’t grow beards or mustaches. And given the country’s tropical climate, having a beard isn’t quite ideal.

According to several Reddit threads, Thai women prefer clean-shaven men. If they sport a beard, they should be well-groomed. Stay on the safe side by choosing the option most convenient for you.

#4: Swap ill-fitting clothes for better ones.

You can be both comfortable and well-dressed. Both concepts aren’t mutually exclusive.

Prioritize getting clothes that fit your body type well, in colors that flatter your complexion.

Well-fitting clothes don’t always come with expensive price tags. If tailored suits aren’t your cup of tea, you can always go for basic pieces that fit great. Get classic ones that won’t go out of style.

Do you know why this matters? It’s simple. A person who takes the time to dress well is showing not only self-awareness but enough emotional intelligence to gauge the impact of his presence on others.

#5: Keep your nails trimmed and clean.

Nail care is basic hygiene. Fingernails and toenails can have germs and bacteria stuck underneath them, especially if they aren’t cleaned regularly. Not only do they look dirty, but they can also be a source of infections and other health problems.

No, a manicure appointment isn’t necessary (unless you want one, no judgment there). Instead, put that nail clipper to good use and keep your nails trimmed.

#6: Smile for real.

Genuine smiles instantly make someone look more attractive. Smile when you mean it.

The attractive eyes of a male become even more so when they smile sincerely. Think of something that makes you happy. When you smile joyfully at the thought, you’ll feel the corners of your eyes crinkling up too.

That’s what a real smile feels and looks like.

#7: Get the right haircut.

Think of hair as a man’s equivalent of makeup. Styling it right helps a lot in the appearance department.

Your haircut should fit your face shape. Here’s a short guide to getting the right cut:

Oblong Go with cuts that cover the forehead or draw the eyes horizontally.
Square Styles that make your face look longer (buzzcut, bun) work best.
Round Structure and volume are a must. Go for angular cuts with height.
Diamond Long and layered hair with soft angles balances narrow foreheads and strong jawlines.
Triangle Hair should ideally have width and volume at the top.
Heart Length and bangs help narrow wide foreheads. Side-swept hair or long and layered styles with side parts are also great.

#8: Mind your body language.

If you don’t know how to tell if you are handsome, look at people’s reactions to you. And specifically, gauge their body language. If a woman makes prolonged eye contact, for example, you can sense something’s brewing.

And with that, mind how you present yourself. You should have an open and welcoming body language when you present yourself to the world.

How to Dress Handsome for a Date in Bangkok

Modern advances aside, Thailand remains a modest country. There aren’t hard and fast rules, but it’s best if you stay on the safe side. Dress your best in the Thai capital with the help of these tips:

#1. Check for dress codes.

Some spots require patrons to follow specific standards. You don’t want to ruin your date by being banned from your venue of choice.

#2: Choose pieces with light fabrics.

Like the rest of Thailand, Bangkok has a tropical climate. Wear outfits made from light and breathable fabrics for more comfort in the city’s heat. Cotton, linen, nylon, polyester, and rayon are good choices.

#3: Get your footwear right.

Match your shoes to the occasion. If you’re out somewhere fancy, for example, loafers will do the trick. You can wear slip-on versions for more comfort and convenience.

#4: When in doubt, go for smart casual.

If you don’t know what to wear, go for a smart-casual style. It usually never fails to look good anywhere. A nice, collared shirt and well-fitting pants can do the trick.

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Learning how to be handsome doesn’t require fancy tricks. This guide should show you that it comes in small steps and gradual progress.


Frequently Asked Questions

What colors look best on men for a date in Thailand?

Neutral tones like navy, white, and beige are safe, sophisticated choices for Thailand’s tropical setting. For a local touch, consider "soft" pastels or earth tones, as these align well with the popular "pretty boy" aesthetic often favored in modern Thai fashion and media.

How often should I get a haircut to maintain my look?

To maintain a sharp, handsome appearance, aim for a trim every 3 to 4 weeks. Regular maintenance prevents the "overgrown" look and keeps your specific face-shape style—whether it's an angular cut for round faces or layers for diamond shapes—looking intentional and polished.

Can I wear shorts on a date in Bangkok?

While Bangkok is hot, shorts are often seen as too casual for evening dates or upscale venues. If the date is outdoors and daytime, tailored chino shorts are acceptable. However, for dinner, stick to breathable linen or lightweight cotton trousers to remain respectful and stylish.

Does cologne help in being perceived as more handsome?

Yes, scent is a powerful part of attraction. In Thailand’s heat, choose "fresh" or "citrus" aquatic scents over heavy, musky fragrances. Apply sparingly to pulse points; a subtle, clean scent suggests good hygiene and self-care without being overwhelming in the humidity.

How can I improve my posture quickly for photos?

Imagine a string pulling the top of your head toward the ceiling. Roll your shoulders back and down, slightly engage your core, and keep your chin level. This instantly elongates your frame and projects confidence and self-assuredness.

References:

Sirinya's Thailand. 2023. “Decoding Thai Beauty and Gender Norms: Cultural Insight.” Sirinya's Thailand. https://sirinyas-thailand.de/thai-beauty-standards-and-gender-roles/.

The Modest Man. 2025. “15 Habits Backed by Psychology to Help You Be More Attractive as a Man.” The Modest Man. https://www.themodestman.com/habits-to-be-more-attractive/.

Zander, Ryan. 2017. “Ultimate Guide to Thai Culture for Newbies.” Iglu. https://iglu.net/ultimate-guide-thai-culture/.

Brown Health University. 2024. “Posture and How It Affects Your Health.” Brown Health. https://www.brownhealth.org/be-well/posture-and-how-it-affects-your-health#.

Zebrowitz, Leslie A. Reading Faces: Window to the Soul? Boulder, CO: Westview Press, 1997


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